Afraid that she won't "pick" me..

Maybe it's different for males, but Oberon has a very different relation with both hubby and I. Lee (hubby) is for playing rough, herding, and jumping on. I'm for more gentle play and cuddles. He definitely loves us both, but we have different roles in his life -- much like we did when our kids were little.
 
We've always had dogs, but Callie is our first Sheltie. None of the other ones have had much to do with me. She's a female and she's definitely MY dog. It's my lap that she chooses to sit on, and my feet that she's always right by. She tolerates my husband, and will jump up once in a while to be petted by him, but she never sits on his lap for long periods of time like she does on mine.

The funny thing is that he wanted a puppy and I didn't. We both work full time, and I was very opposed to getting another dog. Now I don't know what I'd do without her.
 
Congratulations on your soon to be new addition! I'll chime in and say I have two females (one a sheltie and one BC/shepard mix) and I am very much both their person, and this is even with us trying to get the mix bonded closer to my husband.

The fact that you'll be the one feeding and caring for the puppy during the day is a good lead into you being the one it bonds with, but I think even more important than that, dogs pick the ones they know love them and honestly enjoy and accept them even when they're being crazy.
 
Thank you all for answering!:smile2:

I tried to quote each one of you, but when I was about to post an error showed up. Maybe I quoted too many?

Anyway, your answers have made me less worried that she won't see me as her mommy. I will definitely try out your advice, like feeding her from the hand, training with her etc. And I will make sure that we have some time alone without the other dog, but I think she will stay away from the puppy most of the time anyway :lol:

I have never really known a sheltie, but from what I've been reading they seem amazing and intelligent. Still, I'm not really sure what to expect. I'm so excited and can't wait to get her home!
 
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Anyway, your answers have made me less worried that she won't see me as her mommy. I will definitely try out your advice, like feeding her from the hand, training with her etc. And I will make sure that we have some time alone without the other dog, but I think she will stay away from the puppy most of the time anyway :lol:

I have never really known a sheltie, but from what I've been reading they seem amazing and intelligent. Still, I'm not really sure what to expect. I'm so excited and can't wait to get her home!
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I'm so glad we were able to help put your mind at ease.

You are going to have a blast with your little Sheltie. They really are super intelligent creatures. If you're not careful they can, and often will, out think you.

In addition to traditional dog toys, look into puzzle toys you put food in and they have to figure out how to get the food out. This will not only make your dog think but will also tire your pup out. (Mental stimulation can be just as, if not more, exhausting than physical.) Some of my favorites are from Nina Ottosson (I found their Norwegian site: http://www.nina-ottosson.com/no/).

Please share some pictures of your puppy when she comes home.
 
I come across at my store often. It should NOT be a competition for your dog's favour, first off. But the reality is that most often the person who is most involved in day to day feeding and training will the one the pup bonds closest to. So your task is to ensure that your share equal duty. That means that you both feed, you both train and you both treat. It does not matter if the dog is male or female.

What you truly do not want is a situation where the dog will pay attention one of you and not the other. You both have to be involved.

Taking on a pet is a mutual decision. I do not believe that males bond with female humans and vice versa. It in the amount of interaction that the bond occurs.
 
Welcome from Ireland! My little guy (almost seven months now!!) definitely chooses me because I feed him and walk him, teach him stuff, always have treats etc. At first I hoped he would just be stuck to me all the time everywhere I went, but my partner and him get on so well together as well and its nice to see that he has enough love to go around. He is very sweet hearted! He pops over to my partners office and sits with him a bit, then comes back to me and so on through the day. I'm still the only person he will do sit for though, or any tricks really! :lol: I'm sure that you will bond well, because it is important to you, you will make it work. Best of luck!! xx
 
Sometimes the my person thing is overstated also in my opinion. I am number one with my guys by far yet when they stay at my parents Spitfire LOVES mom. Also when they go to the groomers Sca has taken to 'guarding' the one groomer. He will set just behind her all day keeping an eye on her.
 
My mom has mostly had female shelties and they were more her dog but were family dogs too. She did most of the feed and train and groom and was a stay at home mom. I think it is who is prImary parent that makes them more yours than gender
 
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