Piper’s vet visit

They’re looking at transferring my mom today to a community hospital close by…it’ll be much better for me, less travel and more parking available on side streets! Our government has made the parking facilities a huge money making operation…$5 an hour! Its probably cost me a few hundred just in parking fees the last month or so, not to mention the gas travelling to the hospital!

Of course my sister has decided now is the time to make sure I haven’t been stealing from my mother (I’m the POA)…I was wrong to think she had changed. This is also the one who stole $20,000 from my mom. It’s understandable she’d think I’d steal considering she did the same thing. She doesn’t care about the money, just doesnt want me to have it.
They (her and her husband) brought this discussion up on Sunday at the hospital in front of my mom. Even after I’d told her husband it was not the time nor place (and that I would not have this discussion with the person who’d abused me as a child) they continued. To the point my mom told them to both leave. I gotta love my mom…she pointedly told them I could stay but she wanted them to leave.
Donna doesnt see all I do for my mom, that I’m there morning noon and night, that I’m the one getting her up to the chair and actually exercising (hospital staff just ignore her)…that I’m the one bringing her food to eat or just sitting beside her holding her when she’s upset.
It makes me cry but I do have some support…my brother in law is great and I’d recently reconnected with my cousin (my mom’s brother’s son) and he’s been calling me to see how I’m doing. It’s all just so frustrating all the gaslighting I get from that witch and how she acts so sweet and innocent in front of others.
And for context she is a narcissist…the best one there is. She truly hates me (and the feeling is mutual). I hope she steps into traffic and gets hit by a bus🤣
Just my little rant.
 
It's sad and upsetting that you don't have your closest famly members there when you most need them, Lisa. I was an only child with no other relatives and can't relate but sometimes I think I was lucky. I get to pick my family, you have to manage yours. It's not fair to you or your Mom. Hang in there, at least you and your Mom are a team and she knows what your evil sister is about. Sending you hugs. :hugs
 
The stories I could tell from my mom's journey with Pancreatic Cancer.
Enough for a Netflix special.
Just realize family drama when a parent passes (usually the second one) is VERY common, people just don't talk about it.
Deep Breaths!
Your Mom knows you love her and that is what matters
 
My mom really is not well…she’s not being transferred. She had another episode with her heart today…they think she has a blockage and is essentially having lots of small heart attacks. They could put a stent in but the contrast dye is really hard on the kidneys and her kidney function is only at 20%. So the dye could destroy what little function she has left in order to give her more time…which could mean kidney failure in days. Also if she has more than one blockage they wouldn’t be able to do anything so she’d have the risk of the dye with no positive results.
So she’s left with constant shortness of breath and fluid building up which requires a strong dose of diuretics. Which also is hard on the kidneys…
Unfortunately I’m not sure I see a time where my mom comes home…she’s having more and more issues with her breathing to the point using a commode takes everything from her. She’s really gone down in the last month.
I think the outcome will be the same. I do hope and pray she can make it home one more time and see my dogs again but I’m not optimistic.😢
Between a rock and a hard place.

I told my mom today (and she quite agrees) that Donna is the one with the problem.
She didn’t come to see my mom the last 2 days and doesn’t know about what happened today and I will not communicate with her. She did this to herself. Her feelings are more important to her than my mom. Sad really.

I’m going to bingo tonight and I feel guilty because I know my mom wants me there but I need to force myself to take a break!
I’ll see her tomorrow morning and take Piper for a visit. I wish I could take Finnie but he’s just not relaxed enough for a hospital setting.
 
Cindy said:
I brought my Mom a stuffed Sheltie after Gavin passed......She was never a stuffed animal person but I think she got a kick out of it.

Both of my parents passed when someone had just stepped out for dinner or a rest, so just say everything you need to say before you leave.

*hugs*
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I always tell my mom I love her before I leave…it was never a thing before this happened but at risk of never seeing her again I tell her how I feel.
I’ve sat there holding her when she needed to cry…a hard thing to see your parent do but I’d do anything for her.
I lost my father when I was almost 10 and I still remember not long after he died I was sharing my mom’s room (she couldn’t sleep alone). I woke up one night after dreaming she’d died and I shook her and said ‘MOM…MOM…MOM’ and she woke up with a start saying WHAT?
And I just said never mind…I was having a dream.
It’s always been my greatest fear, losing her.
 
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