When your spouse is not on the same page

Fortunately the wife and I were always on the same page when it came to child-rearing, and we applied the same principles to the dogs.
 
I do the majority of dog training, and hubby does the majority of rolling on the floor dog playing. Hubby doesn't let Oberon "get away" with anything, he just doesn't work with him on stuff like I do. We both go to class with him, and take turns doing stuff there. We agree on what the rules should be. If we have a problem, I'm the one that reaches out for a solution and then I share it with hubby.

Come to think of it,yeah - it is a lot like when we raised our kids. They turned out fantastic! True, they have different relationships with their dad than they do with me. That's okay -- we both have great relationships with all 3 kids. If Oberon has a different relationship with me than he does with Lee, as he already is starting to, that's okay too as long as both relationships are healthy and neither one of us undercuts the other.

For example, it's important to me that Oberon sit before he gets fed. I've taught him to do so. Lee doesn't care if he sits or not, but respects me enough to enforce it.
 
For me it isn't the bf who is the problem, it is my mother. She babysits (doggie sits?) while I am at work which mostly means I drop them off at her house and she spoils them. It was the same when my daughter was little. Grandma was the pushover. But even with all of grandmas spoiling the kid turned out fine (she is a senior in college now) so I figure the same will be true for the doggies so most of the time it doesn't bug me.
 
Liza0714 said:
For me it isn't the bf who is the problem, it is my mother. She babysits (doggie sits?) while I am at work which mostly means I drop them off at her house and she spoils them. It was the same when my daughter was little. Grandma was the pushover. But even with all of grandmas spoiling the kid turned out fine (she is a senior in college now) so I figure the same will be true for the doggies so most of the time it doesn't bug me.
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Haha, that is exactly the same for me. I pick up Honey and my mom explains how much fun they had while she was sweeping and honey was biting at the broom:gaah(" that is not a game she should be playing!"), and she tells me with great concern, "Now I only gave her 1 cup of food for dinner" "but she's only supposed to get a quarter cup" "But she still seemed so hungry after the full cup...":rolleyes2:

Ah Grandma's, what are you going to do with them.:razz:
 
Argh!! This whole thread is ringing so true for me. Watson's dad asks so little of him and let's him get away with so much that I can barely get his attention now. I could barely get him to sit tonight and he was barely even lureable. Good thing it was just another class and not the test tonight.

On a positive note, he has a new girlfriend... a very pretty chow.
 
Watson's Mom said:
Argh!! This whole thread is ringing so true for me. Watson's dad asks so little of him and let's him get away with so much that I can barely get his attention now. I could barely get him to sit tonight and he was barely even lureable. Good thing it was just another class and not the test tonight.

On a positive note, he has a new girlfriend... a very pretty chow.
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Chris was like that with Honey at first, they would play together well, but as she got older he couldn't even walk her because she wouldn't mind him at all, let alone if the leash dropped accidentally. He didn't like being ignored so he started working with her, while still making it play. He gets her all riled up playing rough and than runs her rapid fire through all her tricks, reward is going back to rough housing.
 
DH is so wonderful with the furbabies! Annie Laurie would knit a sweater for him if he asked...and if she had thumbs. Whenever he makes a peanut butter sandwich, he says, "Yes, I know. Peanut Butter Rules," and everyone gets a bite.

He's the one who will say, "Bitsy Boodle says she's feeling left out. We need to take her on an outing." "Layla says she hasn't eaten breakfast. I think she's fibbing."

I know I'm most fortunate!!!
 
OMG I love this post. My DH, Lucky and Lady are pathetic with each other, not in a bad way, especially during a football game. Snacks, rub downs, and relaxing on his feet. We are on the same page most of the time.
 
DH and I are usually on the same page too. But sometimes I do have to give him a gentle reminder to do something differently.

Shelby is most definitely a daddy's girl and will pretty much do anything he asks of her, he is the top on her list.
 
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