Sheltie with ongoing food aversion

I don't think one can put a time on this. I will say it does seem like divine intervention and maybe Casper's is smiling down from Rainbow Bridge praying you will give this pup the wonderful life you gave him. Just remember this pup will never replace Casper and probably will not compare. You will make new memories and love this pup for the joy she brings to your life with the different personality traits she has. Good luck I hope your meeting goes well. Keeping you in my prayers.
 
Dawn is so right. You can't put a time on these things. The one thing I've learned the hard way in losing our family's Sheltie Angels over the years is that the best thing to help you heal is another little furry body that you MUST pay attention to. The first time we went through it, when I lost my Sheltie Scruffy, I felt so that I was being disloyal to her to think about another dog. We had two other Shetlies at the time, but Scruffy was my special one.

My husband pushed me to find a puppy, even though I didn't want to. He told me Ivy (one of our other Shelties) needed one since our third was too old to play. I ended up finding Pixie inside of a month from losing Scruffy. I won't tell you I stopped crying for Scruffy, but Pixie demanded my time and attention, which was a real help. And you can't help but smile at a Sheltie, especially one who needs you as much as it sounds like this one does.

I would take that ride and meet her. She may just worm her way into your heart. That would be such a blessing for you, and for her. Divine Providence indeed! He has sent you a virtual invitation!

Please keep us posted. And remember, you'll never lose Casper. He will always live in your hearts.
 
There's no time limit on when it's right to add a new family member. Whenever you and your wife are ready and if you think giving a great home to this girl is right, then do it. My first dog - I lost to cancer and I started looking within two weeks and had adopted an adult within a month. When I lost that dog - also to cancer- I already had two shelties but knew that I needed another playmate for the pup- and while she didn't come home for over a month, I had made all the arrangements to get her way before that.
 
Just remember....a new dog will help you heal faster. It will help you remember all the good memories of Casper and help you get over the pain. The new dog does not take the place of Casper, but rather helps you in the healing process.
 
MY sheltie Tazra had been ill for some time and it had been very stressful so when I lost her I thought I would take a break for awhile. I found I really missed having a sheltie in the house so three weeks later I was searching on the internet and I found Fergus. Only you can decide when the time is right. I agree with the others if you feel you can there is no harm in going to meet her she might be perfect for you.
 
When I lost Hamish in 2000, Dad missed him so much I went looking for another and found Noah 10 days later, even though we were in the process of moving a couple of hundred miles to a new town. When I lost Noah very unexpectedly and far too quickly, my first thought was that I wasn't going to get another. By that afternoon, I had searched and found a sweet little sable girl who totally stole my heart, by the next day, puppy application was sent in and approved. She had actually become available on the day I lost Noah. Two weeks later I brought her home. In October our household grew to include a second Sheltie, Emma's nephew.

As has been said, you will know when the time is right to bring another one into your home. You need to and will grieve for your little one, but your heart will grow larger to include another one. Just remember all your little one meant to you and definitely take the time to grieve. Getting Emma helped me to grieve.
 
Thank you all for your comments! It was funny, actually, to read through them, because everyone basically said "you can't put a time frame on it, you will be grieving either way, but if it were us, we'd already be looking---which we are/were! It's truly a testament to how much these little dogs mean to us, and how we just can't stand not having one in our lives.

We're going to go this Sunday and meet with Ciera and her current people, and based on everything we've heard so far, as long as there aren't any big red flags, we're most likely going to take her. She needs us, and I think we need her too. We know that she won't replace Casper...we couldn't replace him any more than anyone could replace a person who they lost, but we're excited about the possibility of getting to know a new dog, and bringing her into our family.

I'll keep everyone posted! Thanks again!
 
I am so far behind on reading posts, I am so very sorry about Casper. My heart really goes out to you. I won't give any advice on time to buy another sheltie, it took me two years to find Lucky, four years to find Lil' Lady, after I lost my last setter. I found my shelties and so happy with them. They filled that big void around here.

It sure is tough when you loose your pal, and your right it sucks. There are so many memories they leave behind, they leave those etched in our minds.

Prayers and (((((((((((BIG HUGS))))))))))))) to you and your wife.
 
Just a quick update on our situation:

We met with Ciera (the other sheltie) today, and with her people. She's a total cutie who loves people (and food!), and we're going to take her home a week from Wednesday when I get back in town. We're really excited about her, although we still miss Casper a lot. One good thing, we feel, is that she's not like Casper at all, so we're really looking forward to having this new sheltie in our life, and creating new memories and experiences with her. The one negative about her is that she's pretty overweight, so we'll be scouring the forums soon for tips on controlling that.

We'll keep you all posted on this process. Thanks again for all your thoughts and prayers.

---Kevin and Liz
 
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