Heartbroken Newbie

Cazzmags said:
I am so desperately sorry for your loss. I'm new to this forum too and posted about my beloved Archie who we lost to cancer in January, he was only 10.

In your heart you know you made the right decision for your girl but I, like you, tormented myself for ages about making the decision to let Archie go. Deep down we had no choice he would have suffered greatly had we not made the decision when we did and that would have been far worse to live with.

The pain of grief is tangible isn't it and I found myself really struggling to cope with the reality that my beloved boy was gone. I still cry for him every day but as awful as the pain of his loss is I would not have missed a second of my time with him. Grief is the price we pay for love.

Rest assured you did the very best for your beautiful girl and she is now at peace. Surround yourself with your other Shelties, they will help you in your grief and will be a source of comfort.

Take good care of yourself :hugs
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I'm so sorry for your loss of your beloved boy.. It's not really fair, is it ? I mean, I'd have taken her place in a heart beat. She was to kind of a soul to have had so many issues.
When we found out she was sick with the tumor, we spoiled her rotten..
There's such an emptiness left behind.
Thank you so much for your kind words. Every word actually helps.
 
Euthanasia is a boon we can afford to our non-human friends that for many reasons we cannot provide ourselves. For all his wonderful qualities, a dog does not perceive reality the way we do: he has no past to remember, and no future to anticipate. He knows only the present, and when the present is filled with pain, from which there is no prospect of recovery, it is proper and humane to end his suffering. It is natural to grieve, but casting recriminations and doubts upon onself is wrongheaded, even though such things, like grief, is perfectly natural.
 
Mignarda said:
Euthanasia is a boon we can afford to our non-human friends that for many reasons we cannot provide ourselves. For all his wonderful qualities, a dog does not perceive reality the way we do: he has no past to remember, and no future to anticipate. He knows only the present, and when the present is filled with pain, from which there is no prospect of recovery, it is proper and humane to end his suffering. It is natural to grieve, but casting recriminations and doubts upon onself is wrongheaded, even though such things, like grief, is perfectly natural.
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Heartbreaking.. Yet beautiful. Thank you
 
The choice you made for your Lady was the one last gift of love, the greatest gift, you could give her...to make sure she didn't suffer any longer. We all end up facing this decision at some point for every little soul we give our hearts to and it is a heartbreaking decision even when we know it is the right one.

Your Lady is now at peace, forever wrapped in the love she was given by you during her time here on earth. In time I hope you too can find some peace in knowing that you did your best for her and in remembering all the wonderful times you shared.

I am so deeply sorry for your loss.

Trini
 
I am so deeply sorry for your loss of your lovable Lady, with the most wonderful eyes.

It is so painful to lose our faithful best friend, we have fortunately no idea how hard it really is.

I have been through it this pain for 10 months. ago, so I really feel with you.

Can not write it better than Ann:
Do not let anyone tell you "it's just a dog" - you've lost a family member. Do not feel guilty about grieving as you would for a person - these precious pups take up a huge space in our lives and hearts.
 
What a beautiful sheltie. I am so sorry for your loss.
Never ever doubt that your decision wasn't the right one. She is free of any pain or illness now. You gave here the best years of her life when you took her from the Shelter and she was a happy little girl who was always loved and cared for by you.
I hope in time the pain of losing her gets easier and you are left with only happy memorys xx
 
Give yourself time to grieve. Cry. Cry a lot. It helps you get past the pain.

We've been through this 4 times and each time is just as hard as the last. Our dogs have always let us know when it's time for them to go as did your Lady, but the decision is never easy. You gave her peace when she had none. You took on her pain without regard to your own. How can that be the wrong decision?

Our non-pet-owning friends always ask us how we can put ourselves through that, because we know it's inevitable. I always tell them that the pain at the end can never erase a dozen (or more) years of love and companionship.
 
losing a sheltie is the worst

Blessings on your family. I think you did what was best. Prolonging life sometimes doesn't make sense, and so you let them go physically, but she will always be there in your memories. She was a beautiful girl, that picture was precious, such a sweet face. Take time to grieve, it is a process and only time will dull the ache. So many of us had to make that decision, and it is a hard one. I don't think it gets easier, and most of us understand what you are living. Be kind to yourself in this fragile time.

I believe we get reunited with our pets, if I didn't I would CRACK up because they were so dear to me. When I see pictures of my former girls, I still tear up because they were family, and they are truly missed.

Wishing you hugs and peace in this difficult time.
 
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