I'd definitely say it's the drugs, Margi. That's pretty typical after a major surgery. It will be rough on you but it's easier for him to be sedated, trust me. The incontinence not so much, that's tough to deal with. I second the diaper suggestion if you can use them at least for overnights. I pray this gets Benny through this and recovered on the other side. Hang in there, we're thinking about you.